I’m getting married in less six months – OMG! As I expected there is so much to think about when it comes to the BIG day – the dress, the guest list, the food, the venue to name but a few. For me though, there’s something even bigger that I had mulled over for some time and that is whether or not I should change my surname.
Tradition states that the woman should take the man’s surname (rightly or wrongly), but times are changing. Some of my friends have kept their maiden name and at one wedding I attended a few years ago saw the groom change his name to match his bride. So, you see there’s a lot to think about.
Over the years I’ve made many friendships, I guess I’ve collected my friends along the way. From school, university, traveling and work, I’ve met some incredible people who I’ve shared amazing experiences with. I used to be the kind of person who felt that I had to be friends with everyone, but after university I had a huge clear out; I realised many of the people I associated with were just acquaintances, I’d only see them on nights out and they wouldn’t be somebody I’d confide in – and, that’s ok. We grow, we change and move on with our lives.
This post, as you might have figured out is about how I’ve broken up with a friend. It wasn’t nasty, we’re amicable, but it had to be done. It was the best thing to do, for both of us. So, this post is all about how I realised I needed to end our friendship and how I ultimately broke up with her.
There’s a lot of change going on in my life right now. It’s often viewed as a scary thing. It’s challenging, it breaks us out of our day-to-day routines and pushes us out of our comfort zone. I’ve not written a personal post in a while and whilst I’m curled up on my sofa reflecting on how my life is evolving, I thought I’d share the positives that change has brought me.
I’ve wanted to write this post for a long time. I was unsure about where to start and I knew it would be a tricky one to write so it just went on the back burner for a long time. Why now? Well, over the Summer quite a lot in my life has changed; I got engaged. I’m now in a place where I feel that I can talk about what has happened in the past, my journey over the years and how it’s got me to a positive place where I feel content and settled. If you’re reading this and have been affected by divorce in some form or another, it may offer a little insight into how I’ve handled it and that feeling the way you do or have done isn’t unusual. So, with that said here we go…